Friday night my brother fell down 5 meter from his balcony black-outed drunk.
His neighbours came to help, and on a “neck-board” he was rushed by ambulance into emergency room. Besides numerous bruses they haven’t found anything broken. He has very bad back pains – I truly truly hope he can be so lucky to come through without “severe damaged” which would be miracle ! – He fell directly on concrete and could so easily have died !
Still shocked – I drove him home friday night after the concert.
On a sidenote – finally deciding to share it :
During the concert he and one of his friends started drinking ridiciously hard. Beer, licquer and shots. (I have never been into shots and hardly liqueir). So be, but the worst part being they started annoying people in a both childish and AGRESSIVE way. Sticking empty shot-tubes in the back-pockets of strangers in front. Picking on girls obviously there with their boyfriends. I don’t know how to categorize “drunk behaviour”, but the two of us are different – I only turned overly loving, over-sharing, overly imitate. But never AGRESSIVE. I have never been at fight my entire life. knock on wood. Unfortunately I have seen my brother a few times acting out like this before. I tried to calm them down, I gave up and enjoyed the concert for my self in a distance where I could still keep an eye on them, but without them noticing me.
When leaving the venue my brother was to pick up his jacket – had mine in the car – we agreed to meet just outside our Exit. He somehow managened to slip by. Follwowing numerours calls and texts, me freezing like hell, I finally found him and his buddy in a fearce drunk agressive argument in the parking lot, about to turn into a fight. Me “the big brother” managed to seperate the two, and with some resistance they agreed on the buddy continuing “the night in town”, and me driving my brother home as orginally agreed.
Both in the car and at dropping him of at his house he continued his aggressive behaviour. This time arguing about me staying over so we could continue drinking (No way – stupid !! ).
I managed to get him into his house, playing the sweet “manly brotherly love” note.
I had some very sorry moments my 60 km drive home at 01,30, arguing his case about this only being alcohol speaking, So hoped this should have turned out different. But tomorrow is a new day.
An unknown number of hours later, he fel 5 meters down his balcony, black-outed drunk.
Alcohol is a shitty bastard. I truly truly hope this will only end up as a big warning. He is a craft-man and if he had any of the “limitations” I still have following my traffic accident last year, he cannot continue his line of work. (no alcohol or speeding or the like was part of that). At best he will consider his way of drinking, with a big lessons learned.
For now I will repeat my own comment on the original HIgh Risk Environment post (not aware of his accident at the time) :
“A NOTE TO SELF IF I SHOULD EVER QUESTION MY DECISION ABOUT A SOBER LIVING ! :
Sobriety is growing on me as “my way of life”.
Mostly I believe Sobriety will grow to be the enabler for living the life I truly want to”
/Soberman – hoping and praying my brother too stil has his change to live the life the he wants to !